Massaging the baby

Question

We all know that each child should be massaged at least once a day! But sometimes I only get a chance to give my child one oil rub/massage a day instead of two. Is that okay?

Answers

1. There are days when I am too tired to give 2 massages. happens! we just try do the best we can.

Eva

2. I found the first month of life with the baby the most difficult, as everything was so very new and I used to panic a lot, wondering if what was happening was normal or not. So massage wasn’t regular (I don’t remember massaging him more than once ever and skipped the days he or I didn’t feel too well).

Yogita

3. I used to give my both children oil massage only once a day, before bath. I was more regular in doing it with my elder daughter. When the son came I was more busy as they were two now. So I must have massaged her till 3 years old, but with him, I stopped after he became 1-1 and a half. This is the disadvantage of being second child!!!

Christina

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Massaging the baby’s head with oil

Question

I myself oil the boys or put cream every night, but to be honest I always hesitate when it comes to oil on the head. I know it is good but in the UK it is so cold all the time and as myself, if I leave it over night, I can be sure I have a runny nose the next day. I have seen it with the kids too. Once I put oil, next morning they have a cold. I guess it is good in summer or maybe I should just leave it for an hour or so?!?

Sia

Answers

1. I guess you are putting some cold oil. Don’t put amla or any cool oils. I guess coconut oil is best for hair massage. You can heat it a little bit…. And for body massage, olive oil has been recommended by Shri Mataji.

Christina

2. In India it is said that if you want your child to prevent from catching cold in winters then put some warm mustard oil in his fontanel bone area, nostrils and navel.

3. I have used homemade butter or olive oil to massage the children’s body. For their head massage I use coconut oil in the summers and almond oil in the winters as coconut oil tends to freeze on their heads in the cold weather.

Shikha

4. For sahasrara you can use just one drop of oil to avoid the cold. And to prevent running nose, use ghee.

Sabina

5. From Shri Mataji’s talk:

“…The other day I also said that I don’t know why you people don’t put any oil whatsoever. Why not put oil in the head, poor head needs the oil always, at least on a Saturday, put so much oil, rub it nicely and have a bath. But people just don’t put any oil in their head. I mean you must oil, gear up your brain, don’t you think so? If you don’t put oil in any machine, it will crack. For this brain which is your special machine after Sahaja Yoga is really a very special one, you must try to put lot of oil in it. Continue reading “Massaging the baby’s head with oil”

Holding the baby – for how much time?

Question

In the book “Sahaja Yoga and Children”, Shri Mataji says that it’s best not to hold new babies too much, no more than an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening. If I am holding my child more than a couple of hours a day, is it too much?

Answers

1. Everyday and every baby is different; there are days when your baby needs more cuddling etc.

Eva

2. I think we should not be so mathematics oriented! My humble opinion is that Shri Mataji might have meant that we should not hold the baby too much and for no reason! Basically the baby should be picked up for feeding and changing/bathing him ..and some cuddling of course, but not too much! Babies are very smart! Even sahaja yogi babies, or rather especially them! Every time a baby cries we should not take him immediately in the lap. Even other persons in the family should be restrained in doing so. Otherwise they will be permanently hanging to us till 5 years old. I have seen many families like that! They are so much troubled by their chldren! The mother cannot do any other work, jus because the child is clinging to her. Also feeding should be at certain intervals. Don’t feed him whenever he cries! There are many reasons for which a baby cries! Not only hunger. With my daughter I kept a strict feeding program, by keeping a gap of two hours between feeds and NO night feeding!! This not only gave me a good night sleep, but regulated her sleep. Upto 3 months she learnt to sleep in the nght and be awake in the daytime (immediately after birth they do not have this sense and tend to sleep in the daytime and be awake in the night) and also I don’t know how, but made her stop bed wetting from 3 months only! With my son was more complicated, because so many people were around and they were lifting him whenever he was crying. So his feeding schedule was very weird and he was bedwetting till late (maybe 5 years).

Christina

What His Life Was Worth

Robert Burns*, a great Scottish poet, loved common people and wrote for them. Though he had little formal education, he was well-read and talented. He became famous when his first poems were published in 1786. He was known as a very witty man.

One day when Robert Burns was walking near the docks, he hears a cry for help. He ran towards the water. At that moment he saw a young sailor jump off a boat that stood near the dock. The sailor began to swim towards the man who was calling for help. Though it was not easy, the sailor saved the man. The man who was saved from drowning was a very rich merchant. He thanked the brave sailor and gave him a shilling. The sailor was embarrassed.

A large crowd of people gathered round them. All the people considered the sailor to be a hero. They were displeased when the rich man gave the brave sailor only a shilling. Many of the people shouted loudly and protested against it. But the rich merchant did not pay any attention to them.

At that moment Robert Burns approached the crowd and wondered what the matter was. He was told the whole story. He was not surprised at the behaviour of the rich merchant and said: “Let him alone. The gentleman is the best judge of what his life is worth”.

*Robert Burns – 1765-1796 – born near the town of Era in Scotland.

Disposable nappies

Question

In the book “Sahaja Yoga and Children” where Shri Mataji says not to use disposable nappies. I have been wearing Pampers New Baby and feel very comfortable, with cool vibes and no rash. Is this okay do you think?

Answers

1. well, i guess that like with all things it’s individual!! Shri Mataji gives us guidelines to follow and we use them with using our hearts and heads.
i was at my time all ready to use washable nappies but after half a day at home with my first kid i sent my husband to buy some pampers!!! i simply couldn’t manage. of course natural fibres are better 4 vibes.

Eva

2. My son is going to be 17 months soon and he is still in his cloth nappies. I bought more than 2 dozen fitted cloth nappies before he was born, but I was too tired to use them till he was about 20 days old. 😉

But in the nights, day outs and nappy rash days, we do stick to disposables even now…we use Eco ‘Nature baby’ brand of nappies for him. They are apparently made of 75% corn husk. So better for the environment as well. I wonder if its the nappies or some potty training by my parents, but he has been telling us about poo-poo most of the times during the day, pointing to his nappy. Its just that we don’t react quickly enough many a times, so he ends up soiling it!

Yogita

3. I use disposables AND all-in-one cloth diapers.. both!!! when
I am tired or we are going out I put disposables on my child and in home I use cloth diapers. Also at nights I put disposables on the child. It’s more
comfortable.

Since I visited my mom in Calcutta during pregnancy, and also my mother-in-law was always with us, I got an ample supply of old cotton saris. And I washed them with water and mild soap and vibrated salt. The cotton saris turn very soft when they get old. We cut big squares and folded them into medium triangles and stitched them. They got converted into perfect cotton diapers. We made almost 30 of them or more ( I don’t remember exactly). On the bed, we used an oilcloth at the bottom and spread out on top two / three layers of cotton cloth (cut into medium to big squares). We kept changing both the sari-diapers and these spreads every time they get solied. At the end of the day, we used to wash them in washer with hot water, little dettol (available in Indian stores), and mild soap and dry them in clothesline. This way, initilally we had to work a little hard for making and stitching the diapers and bedspreads, but later we got relaxed and the babies enjoyed light, air and good vibrations all the time.

Ivana

4. We used to use cloth nappies, the ones made out of old cotton cloth, as Shri Mataji advised, for daily routine. Only while going out I used to put Huggies or Pampers.They are better for skin, but even like that they were getting rashes from time to time. In the night I used the cloth ones still./ We put a plastic sheet below the bedsheet to save the matress. With my elder daughter I had no problem after 3 months in the night. She never used to pee while asleep. If, by chance it was cold and she was feeling like doing something she used to wake up and cry to announce us. Even while daytime sleep she was not wetting her bed. The younger one was more problematic, but we had to bear him.

Christina